So I am frustrated. Let me start from the beginning.
The kids started soccer this week. Dusty is coaching Alexis' team. Our first game was on Tuesday and the girls did o.k. We were only able to have 1 practice prior to this and so they did as good as could be expected. Tonight was our second game. Our girls kicked butt!! They were awesome. I am somewhat of a loud "cheerer". I am also supposed to be helping Dusty coach. So I would yell to him to switch a girl out or to tell them to pass the ball to each other. The first game Alexis was very hesitant to get near the ball. But tonight she was all over it. She was aggressive and just did great. So I was cheering her on and I was yelling things like "Keep going", "Get ahead of it Lex", "Run", "Go, go, go". I thought I was helping.
But we get home and I said something to Dusty about me yelling a lot louder than the other parents. He told me that I am one of those annoying, over-competitive parents who yells at their kid the whole game. I honestly was not trying to be like that, nor do I think I was. I really was just cheering them on.
So, here is my question. Am I just offended by Dusty's comment because he is right? Or, am I offended by Dusty's comments because he is wrong? I guess none of you can say if he is right or wrong because you weren't there, but I would like some advice. This is the first time our kids have really competed and I honestly was just very excited that Alexis was doing so well. Is it wrong to cheer loud?
I also think that Dusty was frustrated, like he was in the first game, because of one of the parents who stands close to where Dusty is and tells the girls different things than Dusty is trying to tell them (basically he is the parent who didn't want the responsibility of coaching but thinks he knows best). Maybe Dusty was just frustrated with him and took it out on me.
I think that next time I might just sit on the parent's side and let Dusty coach the whole thing on his own. I will sit there and try really hard to just cheer like a quiet, submissive woman (can you feel the sarcasm?).
I want this to be fun for Lex and I don't want to be the parent who screams at their kid.
Advice anyone? I think I need it because as our kids get older there will only be more experiences like this and I think I should just learn how to behave now.
At least we don't have to play again until next Monday.
I am off to take out my frustrations on the elliptical machine!!